5 mistakes people make in divorce

Self-preservation is a crucial aspect for anyone going through a divorce. When splitting from your spouse, you must protect yourself financially and psychologically. One way to do that is to avoid making mistakes during the divorce process.

Some people think they can go it alone without the aid of an attorney. That is not a good idea. Others fail to take control of their divorce. These are just some of the mistakes that may happen.

Agreeing to a one-sided settlement

Here are five mistakes that some people commit during divorce:

• Failing to retain an attorney: Seek the guidance of a qualified and experienced family law attorney. An attorney will guide you at every step and provide beneficial insight. Please be honest and upfront with your attorney, too. Otherwise, you may create a wedge in the attorney-client relationship.
• Agreeing to a one-sided settlement: This, sometimes, happens in haste and may result to your detriment in matters such as child support, alimony, child custody and visitation. Sometimes, people think they can go back later and change the terms. That is possible, but you likely must return to court, which costs time and money. And you are not guaranteed an outcome that you want.
• Playing a passive role in your divorce: This is a major life event that affects you in many ways – financially and psychologically. You need to take greater charge in protecting and advocating for yourself. Take initiative and take charge while working closely with your attorney.
• Failing to enlist the help of a therapist: A divorce represents a difficult time in your life, and you will have to make many adjustments. Shattered confidence, confusion, grief and anger are among the feelings that may surface. It is a good idea to talk things over with a therapist.
• Badmouthing your estranged spouse in front of the children: Despite the fact that some of these stories may be true, you must take the high road. Your children are listening and following your example. It is a terrible idea to share stories that place your spouse in a bad light. Remember, divorce greatly affects children. Do not confuse them or force them to make parental choices.

These are just some of the mistakes that you want to avoid. It is in your best interest to avoid them.

Protect yourself

Divorce can prove difficult. And during difficult times, people may not think clearly, making mistakes along the way. Do your best to protect yourself and avoid making questionable decisions that can affect you for a long time.